Now this post is in a guy’s point of view. If you are in the ages 18-22 then this is just for you, because it’s based on my experience through my years in college. This post may also apply to someone who is younger or older than the 18-22 age group.

Now some of you may think that this is a stupid post but I got a lot of time on my hands and so I decided to write this.

The Beginning
Now, you may think that I knew a lot of people in college when I first came there but I didn’t. When I first came to college I didn’t know anyone. There are people who had friends in college when they were in high school so, when they came to college they were not alone. When I first started out as a freshman I always walked alone and ate alone for a while till I became well known. I would pass by and I see everyone with a group and time to time I felt bad because I wasn’t used to being a loner. In high school I was with a click and I had fun.

The Present
Currently a great number of people know me. There are times when someone tells me that others know me but I wonder how they know me when I don’t know them. Everywhere I go I know I know at least one or two people from different clicks. There are days where I eat with different groups of friends. I never stick with one group of friends I go from one group to another group.

So, How to Be Popular?
There are five things to consider when you want to be popular.
- Your Diction (the words you choose in a conversation)
- Your Appearance
- Your Attitude and Personality
- Your Body, Health
- The Friends you Choose

Diction - Talk the Talk
You may not know it but the words you choose and they way you use them is a major thing when you want to get attention or be heard. When I talk with different groups of people the tone of my voices changes from group to group. When I am with a group of thugs I change the way I talk, “ey yo check this out”. When I am with religious group I say such things like, “Greetings, how are you?”. When I talk to moderate people I talk in a neutral manner, “Hey, what’s up? How’s it going?”. As you interact more and more you will change your tone and the use of words depending on the atmosphere and vibe the group gives off. You will do this without even noticing it.

Your Appearance
Appearance wasn’t a problem with me. I didn’t dress up like a nerd or a gangster or a FOB (fresh-off-the boat) or preppy. I wore loose pants, not too tight and not too baggy. I wore a button-down, full sleve, solid color, clean shirt-not tucked in, with my pants. In the winter I would wear full sleeve shirts with my sleeves rolled up. Most of my clothes are good quality and I payed lower prices at Macy’s than if I were to buy them in Wal-Mart. I buy alot of my clothes from Macy’s. To my suprise Macy’s has a better selection and lower prices than Wal-Mart. I bought a nice Tommy Hilfiger jacket at Macy’s. Tommy Hilfiger is not a top notch thing anymore, but I liked the jacket and Hilfiger makes them good. Along with my shirts and pants I wore case shoes.

NOTE: You don’t have to buy the most expensive clothes to be popular. Buying the most expensive clothes isn’t going to get you anywhere. If you can’t be popular without it then you can’t be popular with it.

Now, when it comes to shoes, the best place to buy shoes, as in with good selection and good prices, is at Value City. Value City has all the good brand names like Reebok, Nike, And1, Fubu, etc.

Always have a clean shaved appearance, because if you don’t then you’re gonna look like hobo. If you want to keep your facial hair then size it up with a Go-T or some other style.

As for the hair, I suggest you should experiment with which styles fit your look. Do not use moose to style your hair. Moose is too oily and it may make you look bad but I could be wrong so, try it out. In my opinion I think any petroleum jelly hair gel will do. There are so many hair styles for guys like me to my surprise. The preppy look goes with guys that have short hair; the preppy style is gelling your hair to come forward and having spikes toward your forehead. For guys with medium or long hair, there is the par look; you comb your hair paring from the middle of your head or to one of your sides. So, try different styles out and stay with what you like.

Your Attitude and Personality
Attitude is a big thing when you want to be popular. You become popular if others think you’re a good person and you’re easy to get along with. You have to be open minded and you have to be friendly with EVERYONE. When I say everyone, that doesn’t mean you should be friendly with the person you hate the most; however, avoid the people you hate and pisses you off and stick with people who favors you. Do NOT be snobby, if someone comes up to you and says “hi” then take the courtesy to say “hi” back, don’t ignore that person or turn away. Do NOT be aggressive, people wants to be with someone who is friendly and they actually want to have a normal conversation and not a fight so, stay away from saying rude or aggressive remarks.

No matter what, stay away from fights. If you win in a fight then some may fear you and avoid you, and if you loose in a fight you will be humiliated and others will laugh at you. Either way you will loose alot of respect if you get into fights.

Body and Health
When you get a chance exercise regularly. Having a slim body and being sharp everyday helps a lot when you want to attract people. No one likes an obese person, people will favor a good looking slim person, and that’s the truth; it’s life. People will pay more attention and favor good looking people. If you don’t have time to work out at the gym then try to eat healthy and if you get a chance just go outside and jog for 20-30 minutes, trust me it’ll help.

Friends You Choose
Starting off with the right friends is very important. Don’t choose to hang out with people that only hang out with you if you have a nice car or a nice house or nice clothes, because people like those are worthless and when you need help they will not help you. Good friends will tell others how much of a good person you are and not base your good qualities on what you own. People who are friends with you for who you are will help you gain more popularity. Do your best not to be snobby, always be friendly and look to others as if they are good as you. Never hangout with the “popular crowd”, in my experience they have a bad reputation from a good number of people because they think they are “all that” and they look down at the rest. Do not hang with thugs, when I say thugs, I don’t mean the people who dress up like thugs, but those who are true players, those who do drugs, those who smoke pot as if it’s nothing. Thugs will do nothing more than just get you in trouble and lowering your respect.

The popular crowd and the thuggish crowd are trouble for you; however, it’s ok to talk to them, but your true friends will help spread the good word about you.

NOTE: Always have good relations with everyone.

Try your best not to be biased on talking to people based on how they look.

How Did Being Popular Help Me?
People thought I was good looking and a nice guy so they told their friends about me. To my surprise having a good reputation and being well known helped me find my first love. Her cousins knew me and told her good things about me and now I have a girl who loves me to death for who I am.

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